75+ Would You Rather Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
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You already know how her day went. You know what she had for lunch, which colleague annoyed her, and roughly what time she got home. What you might not know is which decade she wishes she had grown up in, or what she would grab first if the flat caught fire. Would you rather questions for your girlfriend are the shortcut past all the admin — a two-second question that gets a real answer instead of a status update.
That is the whole appeal. "How was your day" asks her to summarise eight hours of nothing much. "Would you rather never be cold again or never be tired again" asks her to have an opinion, and people love having opinions far more than they love giving summaries. One of those gets you a shrug. The other gets you five minutes of her arguing a position she has apparently held for years without ever mentioning it.
Below are 76 questions across six categories — funny, romantic, her taste and style, travel, the genuinely deep ones, and a flirty set that stays on the right side of tasteful. There is also a short guide on how to ask without it feeling like an interview, because that is the part most people get wrong. Want the version built for two-way texting? The over-text list is designed for exactly that.
Why Questions Beat Small Talk
Small talk asks her to report; a good question asks her to choose. That difference is bigger than it sounds. Reporting is work — she has to decide what counts as interesting, edit it down, and deliver it. Choosing is instant. She hears two options, one of them feels obviously right, and she is already talking before she has decided why. You get past the polite layer without either of you having to steer.
You learn things that never come up otherwise. Nobody volunteers that they would rather lose their sense of smell than their sense of taste, or that they would genuinely take a cabin in the woods over a flat in the city. These are not secrets she is keeping. They are just facts that have never had a reason to surface, and a Would You Rather question gives them one.
It resets a conversation that has gone flat. Every couple has evenings where the talking runs out by nine and you both end up scrolling. That is not a relationship problem, it is a prompt problem — you have simply run out of things to react to. One odd question puts something new on the table, and the conversation restarts on its own from there.
And it is genuinely fun, which matters. A lot of relationship advice about "communication" sounds like homework. This is not that. It is a silly game you can play in a queue, on a drive, or half-asleep at midnight, and the fact that it also happens to tell you something about her is a bonus you never have to mention.
How to Ask (Keep It Fun, Not an Interview)
Mix the light ones with the heavy ones. Six deep questions in a row stops being a game and starts being a review. Open somewhere silly, drift into something that matters, then swing back out to something ridiculous. The lighter questions are not filler — they are what makes the serious ones feel safe to answer honestly.
Answer them yourself, and go first sometimes. If you only ask, she is being questioned. If you both answer, you are playing. Give a real answer with a real reason, including the ones that make you look slightly ridiculous, because that is the permission slip for her to do the same. The fastest way to make this feel one-sided is to keep your own answers vague.
Follow the why, not the what. The choice is never the interesting part. "Why that one?" is where the actual conversation lives, and it is usually one question away from a story you have not heard. Ask it once, then stop and let the pause do the work. Three follow-ups in a row and you have turned a game into a cross-examination.
Read her mood before you pick a section. If she has had a brutal day, the deep section is the wrong move — go funny, or go to travel and let her plan an imaginary holiday for ten minutes. Save the meaningful ones for a long drive, a slow Sunday, or the stretch of the night when neither of you can be bothered to get up.
Stop before it runs out. Four or five questions and then let it go. The goal is not to get through the list; it is to end up somewhere off the list entirely. If the questions do their job you will not finish a single category, and that is the version where it works.
75+ Would You Rather Questions for Your Girlfriend, in 6 Categories
Start here, always. These cost nothing to answer, and they warm the whole thing up so the later sections don't arrive out of nowhere.
- Would you rather have to sing every sentence you say to me or dance every time you walk into a room?
- Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or have a duck-sized horse follow you everywhere forever?
- Would you rather always have a bit of spinach in your teeth or your top on inside out?
- Would you rather have your search history read aloud at a family dinner or your camera roll shown at work?
- Would you rather sneeze once every minute for a year or never be able to sneeze again?
- Would you rather have a personal narrator describing your every move or a hype man cheering you on?
- Would you rather everyone you meet think your name is Deborah or nobody ever remember it at all?
- Would you rather I laugh at every joke you make or be completely honest about which ones are bad?
- Would you rather have arms that are slightly too long or legs that are slightly too short?
- Would you rather your phone autocorrect every word to "pineapple" or send a voice note every time you text?
- Would you rather live with a housemate who never stops talking or one who has never once spoken?
- Would you rather have to reply to every message in rhyme or answer every call by singing hello?
- Would you rather be famous for something embarrassing or completely unknown for something brilliant?
Soft rather than sappy. These are about the shape of a good day together, and they tend to end with her describing something you should probably just go and do.
- Would you rather have breakfast in bed every Sunday or a proper dinner out every Friday?
- Would you rather be surprised with flowers for no reason or a note left somewhere you'll find it later?
- Would you rather have a whole weekend with no plans or a weekend where I've planned everything?
- Would you rather fall asleep on the sofa halfway through a film or stay up too late finishing it?
- Would you rather be told you're loved every single day or shown it once a week without a word?
- Would you rather have a song that's ours or a place that's ours?
- Would you rather get a long handwritten letter once a year or a short good-morning text every day?
- Would you rather we cook something together badly or order in and actually talk?
- Would you rather have a slow walk with no phones or a long drive with the right playlist?
- Would you rather be picked up from the airport or come home to a clean flat and dinner ready?
- Would you rather relive our first date or fast-forward to a random Tuesday ten years from now?
- Would you rather have your favourite memory of us on video or the feeling of it back for one hour?
- Would you rather I remember every anniversary perfectly or surprise you on days that mean nothing?
The section that quietly doubles as gift research. Taste, comfort, what she actually reaches for — not what she says she likes.
- Would you rather have one perfect pair of jeans or five pairs that are almost right?
- Would you rather wear the same outfit every day or never repeat one twice?
- Would you rather have unlimited coffee or unlimited good dessert?
- Would you rather your whole wardrobe be comfortable or your whole wardrobe be flattering?
- Would you rather get ready for two hours with music on or be out the door in ten minutes?
- Would you rather have one expensive thing you love or three good ones you like?
- Would you rather never wear heels again or never wear trainers again?
- Would you rather redecorate the whole flat or move somewhere new with the same furniture?
- Would you rather have perfect hair every day or perfect skin every day?
- Would you rather be given a gift you'd never choose but secretly love or exactly what you asked for?
- Would you rather listen to one album on repeat for a year or never hear your favourite song again?
- Would you rather have a bath that's always the right temperature or a bed that's always the right side of cool?
- Would you rather I compliment your outfit or notice when you've changed something small?
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- Would you rather have one month somewhere far away or four long weekends close to home?
- Would you rather wake up in a mountain cabin or a flat above a busy street in a city you've never visited?
- Would you rather travel with a plan for every hour or nothing booked past the first night?
- Would you rather see the northern lights or swim somewhere the water is genuinely turquoise?
- Would you rather always fly first class alone or economy with me every time?
- Would you rather go back to the best place you've been or somewhere neither of us knows anything about?
- Would you rather live by the sea and drive an hour to everything or live central and never see the water?
- Would you rather take a train across a whole country or a boat between islands for a week?
- Would you rather work from anywhere in the world or never work a Friday again?
- Would you rather have a house full of people most weekends or a quiet one that's always yours?
- Would you rather learn a language properly or learn to cook one cuisine properly?
- Would you rather have every photo from a trip or every conversation you had on it?
- Would you rather do something you've always been scared of or finally get good at something you've half-tried for years?
Save these for a long drive or a late night. Ask two, not twelve — each one is worth a proper conversation on its own.
- Would you rather be deeply understood by two people or genuinely liked by two hundred?
- Would you rather know exactly how your life turns out or be surprised by all of it?
- Would you rather be forgiven for something you did or apologised to for something done to you?
- Would you rather have a career you're proud of or a home life you never want to leave?
- Would you rather hear the hard thing straight away or be protected from it for a while?
- Would you rather lose every photo you own or every message you've ever kept?
- Would you rather be needed by the people you love or trusted to be fine on your own?
- Would you rather go back and change one decision or be told it was the right one all along?
- Would you rather have more time with someone you've lost or one honest conversation with them?
- Would you rather feel completely settled or always have something you're working towards?
- Would you rather be someone's safe place or someone's best adventure?
- Would you rather know what I really think about everything or keep a few things unsaid?
Warm rather than crude — the kind you can ask across a dinner table without anyone at the next one raising an eyebrow.
- Would you rather be kissed hello in front of everyone or waited for at the door when we get home?
- Would you rather I hold your hand the whole way there or put my arm around you the whole way back?
- Would you rather get a compliment you can't stop thinking about or one you can repeat to your friends?
- Would you rather dance with me badly in the kitchen or slow dance properly somewhere fancy?
- Would you rather be told exactly what I find attractive about you or work it out from how I act?
- Would you rather have a whole day in bed doing nothing or a whole night out doing everything?
- Would you rather I text you something that makes you smile at work or say it to your face that evening?
- Would you rather be flirted with obviously or so subtly you have to check you're right?
- Would you rather share a hoodie all winter or share an umbrella in a downpour?
- Would you rather be missed loudly while I'm away or welcomed back without a word?
- Would you rather have a long look across a crowded room or a whisper nobody else hears?
- Would you rather I steal your side of the bed or your last bite of dessert?
Perfect for Texting
Nearly every question here works better in a text thread than a "hey" does. It is short, it needs no set-up, and it gives her something specific to reply to — which is why a dead thread usually comes straight back to life after one of these. Send a single question, not a screenshot of the whole list, and let her answer land before you fire off the next one.
The rhythm matters more than the question. One in the morning, one in the afternoon, and then let it turn into an actual conversation is far better than ten in a row at eleven at night. If you want a set written specifically for the back-and-forth of messaging — including the ones that work as openers and the ones that hold a thread together for an hour — the 100+ questions to ask over text list is built for exactly that job.
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Are these good for a new relationship?
Yes, as long as you start in the right place. In the first few weeks stay in the funny, favourites and travel sections, where every answer is easy and nothing feels like a test. The deep and flirty questions land far better once you already know her rhythm, so save those for later rather than opening with them.
How many should I ask at once?
Three to five is the sweet spot. Would You Rather works because it feels like a game rather than a questionnaire, and that illusion breaks the moment she can tell you're working through a list. Ask a few, let the conversation wander off somewhere better, and stop while she still wants one more.
What if she says "both"?
Let her, then make her choose anyway with a smile. Half the fun of Would You Rather is the moment someone tries to escape the question and gets pulled back in. If she genuinely can't pick, ask which one she'd give up last — that usually gets a real answer within about five seconds.
Do these work over text?
They work brilliantly over text. A Would You Rather question is short, needs no context and is far easier to reply to than a blank "hey", which makes it one of the best ways to restart a quiet thread. Send one at a time, react to her answer, and let it become a conversation instead of a quiz. The over-text list has 100+ more.
Where are the deeper ones?
The Deep & Meaningful section above is the most serious set here, and it's worth saving for a long drive or a late night rather than a busy afternoon. For a much bigger mix built for established couples, the couples list runs to 200 questions, and you can play the free online game for hundreds more with live vote percentages.
