100 Would You Rather Questions for Long-Distance Couples
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Long-distance relationships run on conversation, and conversation runs out. After the tenth "how was your day" in a row, a video call can go quiet in a way that has nothing to do with how much you like each other. Would you rather fixes that in about four seconds: one question, two options, and suddenly you are arguing about whether you would rather share a tiny apartment or a huge house in a boring town.
This list has 100 questions written for couples who are apart — about visits, time zones, texting habits, future plans, and the small daily things you miss. They are grouped so you can pick the mood: sweet, funny, deep, future-focused, a little spicy, and a lightning round for the nights when one of you is already half asleep.
Play them over a call, send one a day by text, or load them into the free Would You Rather game so you both see the same question at the same time. The future set is the one that turns into a real conversation; save it for a night with time.
Why Would You Rather Works for Long-Distance
Couples who live together learn things about each other by accident — a reaction to a movie, a weird opinion about breakfast. Long-distance couples have to do that on purpose, and most questions that try to do it on purpose feel like an interview. Would you rather does not. It is a game first, so the honest answer slips out before anyone has time to be careful.
It also gives you something to do together rather than something to report to each other. A good session has the same feel as sitting on the same couch: half the questions get answered, the other half get abandoned because someone said something ridiculous and you spent ten minutes on that instead.
How to Play It Across a Distance
On a video call: take turns reading. The person who reads does not answer first — the other one does, then the reader has to say whether they guessed right. Keep a running score of correct guesses; by the end of a month you will know exactly how well you predict each other.
By text: one question a day, sent in the morning, answered whenever. This version is slower and, honestly, better for the deep set — people write more than they say. Screenshot the good ones. Six months of these is a surprisingly nice thing to have.
In the game: the free online version lets you both open the same question from your own phones, vote, and see the result together. It also shuffles, so nobody has to be the one who picks.
100 Would You Rather Questions for Long-Distance Couples, in 6 Sets
Sweet and funny sets are safe for any night. Deep and future are for when you have time. Spicy is clearly labeled.
The ones that make the distance feel smaller.
- Would you rather get a handwritten letter every week or a surprise video call every day?
- Would you rather I fly to you next visit or you fly to me?
- Would you rather fall asleep on a call together or wake up to a voice note?
- Would you rather have a photo of me on your desk or my hoodie in your closet?
- Would you rather I send you a playlist or a package?
- Would you rather relive our first date or our first reunion at the airport?
- Would you rather have one long visit a year or four short ones?
- Would you rather I learn your favorite recipe or you teach it to me over a call?
- Would you rather get a good-morning text or a good-night text if you could only have one?
- Would you rather we watch a movie together over a call or read the same book and talk about it?
- Would you rather I mail you my scarf or a stack of Polaroids?
- Would you rather count down the days on an app or on a paper calendar on the fridge?
- Would you rather have a joint photo album we both add to or a shared journal we both write in?
- Would you rather I surprise you at your door or you surprise me at mine?
- Would you rather hear me say I miss you or hear me say I'm proud of you?
- Would you rather I plan our whole next visit or we plan it together on a call?
- Would you rather I send flowers to your work or dinner to your apartment?
Because a relationship needs a little bit of nonsense.
- Would you rather I always call at the worst possible time or always text in all caps?
- Would you rather we only communicate in voice notes for a week or only in memes?
- Would you rather I send you a photo of every meal or a review of every show I watch?
- Would you rather have your call drop every ten minutes or have my camera frozen on my worst face?
- Would you rather I meet your friends on a group call or your parents on a group call?
- Would you rather I accidentally like your ex's photo or accidentally text my friend something meant for you?
- Would you rather we argue over which time zone is better or which one of us snores?
- Would you rather I narrate my whole commute to you or you narrate your whole grocery trip to me?
- Would you rather have a matching ugly sweater or a matching terrible haircut?
- Would you rather I send a bad selfie every hour or one perfect selfie a month?
- Would you rather we adopt a plant we co-parent over calls or a virtual pet?
- Would you rather I get your name wrong once in front of your friends or you get mine wrong in front of mine?
- Would you rather I sing to you on every call or you have to hear my dramatic reading of my emails?
- Would you rather we plan a visit around a concert or around a food festival?
- Would you rather I fall asleep mid-call or you fall asleep mid-text?
- Would you rather we have a terrible connection but a great conversation, or a perfect connection and nothing to say?
- Would you rather I send you a daily weather report or a daily horoscope?
For the quiet part of the night.
- Would you rather know exactly when the distance ends or be surprised when it does?
- Would you rather I tell you when I'm lonely or handle it on my own so you don't worry?
- Would you rather we talk every single day, even briefly, or have longer calls a few times a week?
- Would you rather I visit when you're stressed or when you're free?
- Would you rather we never went a day without speaking or we never had a serious fight?
- Would you rather be the one who moves or the one who stays?
- Would you rather I be honest about a hard day or spare you the details?
- Would you rather we set a rule about jealousy or trust each other with no rules?
- Would you rather know what I think about at 2 a.m. or what I think about on my commute?
- Would you rather we celebrate anniversaries on the day or on the next visit?
- Would you rather I say the hard thing on a call or write it in a message?
- Would you rather we had met later, when we lived closer, or exactly when we did?
- Would you rather I tell you my worry about us or my hope for us?
- Would you rather we talk about money now or when we finally live together?
- Would you rather I keep a small secret to protect you or tell you everything even when it hurts?
- Would you rather we grow at the same pace or grow in different directions and meet in the middle?
- Would you rather I miss you loudly or miss you quietly?
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- Would you rather live in your city, my city, or somewhere brand new to both of us?
- Would you rather rent a tiny apartment downtown or a big place farther out?
- Would you rather close the distance in six months with some risk or in two years with everything sorted?
- Would you rather have a dog first or a couch first?
- Would you rather we take one big trip a year or lots of weekends away?
- Would you rather live near your family, near mine, or near neither?
- Would you rather split every bill exactly or take turns paying for things?
- Would you rather have a home office each or one shared one?
- Would you rather cook together every night or eat out twice a week?
- Would you rather we pick a neighborhood by the commute or by the coffee shops?
- Would you rather move first and find jobs after, or find jobs first and move after?
- Would you rather have a small wedding soon or a big one later?
- Would you rather we keep separate hobbies or find one we do together?
- Would you rather have a bathtub or a balcony?
- Would you rather be the early riser or the night owl in our future house?
- Would you rather we host holidays or travel for them?
- Would you rather we write down our five-year plan or just see what happens?
Flirty, not explicit. Skip if you're on speaker.
- Would you rather I wear your shirt on our next call or you wear mine?
- Would you rather get a flirty text at work or a flirty voice note before bed?
- Would you rather I describe our next date or our next kiss?
- Would you rather we count down the hours to the visit or pretend it's not happening until it does?
- Would you rather I meet you at the airport with a sign or with no words at all?
- Would you rather the first night of a visit be a fancy dinner or takeout on the floor?
- Would you rather I tell you what I miss most about you or show you when I see you?
- Would you rather we have a slow dance in the kitchen or in the airport parking lot?
- Would you rather I send a compliment about your mind or about your smile?
- Would you rather I fall asleep in your shirt or you fall asleep in mine?
- Would you rather I plan a surprise date for the visit or you plan one for me?
- Would you rather we spend the last night of a visit out with friends or just the two of us?
- Would you rather I whisper good night or say it out loud for the whole apartment to hear?
- Would you rather we have a signature goodbye or a different one every time?
- Would you rather I tell you the moment I knew or you tell me first?
- Would you rather the visit end with a long hug or a promise about the next one?
Answer instantly. No explaining.
- Would you rather text or call?
- Would you rather a 5-minute call or a 50-message thread?
- Would you rather I visit in summer or winter?
- Would you rather a road trip or a flight for the next visit?
- Would you rather morning calls or midnight calls?
- Would you rather I send a song or a photo?
- Would you rather plan the visit or be surprised by it?
- Would you rather we count days or count weeks?
- Would you rather a hug at arrivals or a hug at the car?
- Would you rather coffee dates or dinner dates when we're together?
- Would you rather I remember every anniversary or every inside joke?
- Would you rather a short visit now or a long visit later?
- Would you rather an airport goodbye or a doorstep goodbye?
- Would you rather we FaceTime the dog or FaceTime the fridge?
- Would you rather the distance end tomorrow or end perfectly?
- Would you rather I say I love you first on every call or you do?
How to Make It a Habit
The couples who get the most out of this do not play all 100 in one night. They pick a set per week and let it run. One question at breakfast (yours) and dinner (theirs), and by Sunday you have answered fourteen things you had never talked about. It sounds small. Over a year of distance it is not.
Keep the answers. A note on your phone titled with the date and the question is enough. When the distance finally closes, you will have a record of who you were while you waited — and a very good list of things to argue about in the same room.
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Are these questions good for a new long-distance relationship?
Yes — start with the sweet, funny and lightning sets. The deep and future sets assume you have been together a while and are ready to talk about closing the distance; save those for later.
How do we play would you rather over text?
Send one question a day and answer it whenever you can. Text works better than calls for the deep set because people write more than they say out loud. Keep the good answers in a shared note.
What if we answer the same way on everything?
Switch to guessing. Before your partner answers, predict their pick. Matching answers get boring; being right about each other never does.
Can we use these on a video date with friends?
The sweet, funny and lightning sets work fine with other people around. Keep the spicy and deep sets for when it is just the two of you.
Is there a version for couples in the same city?
This list is written around distance — visits, time zones, texting. For couples who see each other regularly, the site's couples and date night lists are a better fit.
Does the online game work when we're in different time zones?
Yes. The free game runs in the browser, so you both open the same link from wherever you are. Whoever is awake first can queue up the question.
